5.1 The Hurt Card.

This is an effective tool in order for you to highlight how the other persons has taken as action to wrong you.

Intention – becomes very difficult when there are disagreements, because can you really blame someone when the outcome was not what they intended?

The answer is yes.

How many times have you heard the following lines?

“I did not mean to”

“I did not think you would react like this”

“That’s not what I meant”

“I wasn't thinking about that”

These lines allow them to brush off the fault without having them admit that they have done a wrong doing towards you.

This is when you pull out the Hurt Card, and it goes like this…

“Regardless if you had the intention to hurt or not, the bottom line is that you have hurt me and hurt my feelings. Since I have someone you really care about I really hope that you understand that even if you did not mean to you hurt me and let me down. I am trying to be rational and work a solution around this but I want you to know how it made me fell.”

So honestly what can anyone say to that? Nothing really.

Other than sorry, unless you don’t mind sounding like the biggest douche bag.

Whenever you feel like the arguments/ discussion is going off centre remember to always pull it back to you and your hurt feelings and when you are thinking of a solution they will have your feelings at the forefront of their mindset. 

In the end if you are someone they care about - they will not want to see you hurt or upset, and should do everything in their ability to make it up to you and alleviate the pain.