Many of us question what we look for in a potential partner. Most of us will produce a list of characteristics, some lists longer than others. Many of us will say "oh but this is flexible" , "these change over time".
But what happens when we look deeper into this ?
What if it is not about what is actually on the list, but more what we do with it?
I have come to the realisation that I am not looking for someone that perfectly fills my list, nor someone that just induces strong feelings- but an intricate and rare balance of both.
When we meet, we should both have a list, but as we get to know each other that list slowly gets forgotten about until it is dropped all together.
But we will pick up our partners list and look at the qualities they intially were looking for in us. Some we will already have and some we do not.
All the ones we cannot tick off just yet, is what we aspire to , what we work towards together, to be better people. Because in essence that list is just a list of characteristics that are important to our partner.
The most healthy form of love makes us into better, stronger, happier versions of ourselves.
That is what I am on the quest for.
